I turned 45 this year, and after looking pretty youthful for a long time, suddenly in these last two years or so my age hit me like a truck. In my face. My skin suddenly changed dramatically, becoming much drier yet also more prone to acne. I’ve got the beginnings of age spots (OY). My eyelashes no longer stand up; they point forward making it look like I don’t HAVE eyelashes.
But worst of all, my makeup suddenly stopped working for me. I’ve always been a cheapskate when it came to makeup, buying all my stuff at the drugstore because it was pretty good quality and inexpensive. However, now that my face is a mess of fine wrinkles, I began noticing some problems. My eyeshadows all typical sparkly type shadows began falling into the wrinkles and highlighting them. Because my upper eyelid now droops a lot more, I’d end up with a shadow of my lash eyeliner on the lid making it look like I had two sets of eyebrows. My eyebrows are thinner and patchy. And putting eyeliner under my eyes was disastrous, with the eyeliner slowly falling down and making me look like I have two black eyes.
So I started doing some research about what other women my age were doing (there is surprisingly little info out there), and I learned a couple of things. First, time to switch to matte shadows instead of sparkly. Second, buy better quality makeup. Third, get waterproof products. It’s worked! Lately I’ve gotten a ton of compliments on my makeup, so I thought I’d share what I learned here at Babble.
Here we go!
Primer is the best thing ever. It’s like spackle for your face; it fills in the tiny lines and smooths out your pores. I prefer a non-silicone based primer, but I know people who swear by them. I’m currently using that Clarins primer, but I’ve also loved this much cheaper version as well.
Picking a color that matches your skin is critical. I’m pale with pink skin tones and dry skin, so this one works for me. I have yet to upgrade my foundation to a more expensive version (I’m doing it slowly for budget reasons), but this one works quite well. I don’t put it on my forehead (makes me breakout), but I put it everywhere else and then use a sponge (not my fingers) to smooth it out. And I know most of us have learned this before we turned 40, but make sure you blend well at the jawline. Remember that girl in high school that slathered on the foundation that was the wrong color and you could see it like she was wearing a mask? (Come on, every school had at least one!)
I wish I could claim that I learned this eyelash trick on my own, but I actually saw a woman stand up in the audience on Rachel Ray and suggest this, and I wish I knew her because I would kiss her right on the lips for this trick. It is something I do to make my eyelashes look 15 years younger. Seriously.
First, I put a touch of hairspray on my fingertips, and I gently brush it onto my lashes. Yes, be very careful, because HOLY STINGING EYES. I then take the hairdryer and use it to warm up the eyelash curler. Yes, really. Don’t heat it to scalding, duh, but just a bit warm. Then I use the curler as close to my eyelid as I can, and crimp them for a good 15 seconds.
The hardest thing I had to let go of with my eyeshadow was walking away from the smoky eye. I can’t do it anymore. It makes me look like I’ve been punched, it highlights wrinkles, and really makes me look much more tired and old. So I’ve switched to using bright neutral colors instead.
I use a bright white shade on my lower eyelid, then tone it down a bit with a peach color on both upper and lower lids. Then I take a flat brush and apply the white eyeshadow below my lash line on the my bottom lid this really helps me look more awake and makes the eye bags less obvious. Lastly, I use the white eyeshadow in the outside corners of my eyes. The start of the crow’s feet means there is a little collection of dark skin there, and lightening it up really helps brighten my eyes.
I’ve a huge fan of a defined line of eyeliner. For decades I used a pretty standard liquid liner that I loved, but in these last few years it stopped working. It flaked off my eyelids and got liner all over my face. So I got a tub of waterproof eyeliner that is about the consistency of mud, and use a small angled brush to apply the eyeliner to my upper eyelid. If you prefer a softer line, this liner is very easily smudge-able, too.
One VERY big pain while applying liner now is that I have to use one hand to hold my upper eyelid out of the way. I really need three hands to apply it now.
One other thing I’ve invested in is quality makeup brushes. For years I just used what came with the makeup, and I have to say using good brushes REALLY helps in application.
Eye Brighten Trick
Here is where my last hold out of cheap, shimmery shadow comes in: using it to brighten my eyes. I use a teeny bit on a brush in the inner corners of my eyes; it helps define my eyes and call attention to them while also making me look less tired much better than eyeliner under the eyes.
I still use a pink blush. Yes, I know I could use a bronzer instead, but I don’t like it. I also prefer a matte look, and bronzers are always shimmery. I use the blush on the apples of my cheeks with a bit on my cheekbones, and I also use it around the jawline to downplay the start of my jowls and my double chins. That brush I use is called a “stippling” brush. I don’t know why.
I bought Bare Minerals ages ago and was sad to discover that my skin is far too dry to use it as a foundation. However, I have found it to be excellent as a coverup! I use a small brush and cover my age spots, the red tiny veins around my nose, and again in the outer corners of my eyes. I also use it on my perimenopausal acne, too.
Finishing Powder Trick
I love a good finishing powder. This brand is not my favorite; because it’s high definition, it’s ground super fine and I have to hold my breath while I use it to avoid inhaling it. But I will say, it really looks and feels nice. I brush it on pretty generously, and then use a makeup sponge to smooth it out and remove excess.
Note that I do this BEFORE applying mascara.
My best advice about mascara? If you spend money nowhere else, do it for mascara. A high-quality mascara makes a huge difference in how your eyes look. This version of Fresh mascara is discontinued, but the Supernova version also rocks. When I apply it, I first use the edge of the makeup sponge to knock off any loose powder or eyeshadow. You don’t have to do this in fact, leaving the powder on and then putting mascara over it can make your lashes much fuller but I do because I already have pretty full lashes. I do, as you see, still apply mascara to my lower lashes. I imagine, over time, that will be something I have to stop doing for the same reasons I no longer apply eyeliner under my eyes.